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Willing – a five minute challenge

by | Mar 7, 2014 | Uncategorized

The five minute challenge today is the word: willing
Write for five minutes and don’t edit it.

Lord I am willing to learn all that you want to teach me.
Help me to open my heart and open my spirit to the lessons you bring my way.
You know me best.
You have set me in this place in time and this direction is guided by you.
May my fears and apprehensions not cloud your will for me.
I stand feeling unqualified. Challenged. Untrained at times.
My writing is from my heart not necessarily from the editing point of view.
You have brought me this far and you will continue to guide this journey.
Help me to be a willing partner in this adventure and help me also to not doubt your good and kind motives.
I know all that you are doing within me is to stir awake the words and the stories and the chapters yet to be shared.
Thank you for being so patient.
Your love is a gift.

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Willingness

by | Mar 5, 2014 | Uncategorized

The first word I shared about was courage.
The next one on the list is: willingness.
Dictionary.com said the definition is:
Willingness: Cheerfully consenting or ready. 
Inclined, minded, freely or voluntary.

What I have learned in the process of therapy and recovery.
In the beginning we do not enter into it… cheerfully.
Usually we go because we have the realization in our heart that life is not peaceful inside our ‘spirits’ and we realize something must change so we can heal.
Courage is simply the willingness to be afraid and act anyway.
Robert Anthony
It takes courage to volunteer oneself into a therapy room and open your deepest wounds up to someone you just met and then begin to trust them.
It is about consenting and giving permission.
It is a knowing deep within yourself that this must take place in order for healing to begin.
What we call the secret of happiness is no more a secret than our willingness to choose life. Leo Buscaglia
Life in a new scene or setting. 
Creating for us change because we are desiring something different.
We are giving permission to another person to ask questions and probe into our ‘darkest places’
in order for us to find healing and health.
I’ve never found therapy to be a sign of weakness, I found the opposite to be true.
The willingness to have a mirror held up to you definitely requires strength. Brooke Shields.  

And strength and courage and willingness are all a part of therapy and recovery.
We incline ourselves to the knowing that this is very needed right now and we will not be the same when we are through with this process.

We are stronger

by | Mar 2, 2014 | Uncategorized

We gain Strength and courage,
and confidence 
by each experience in which 
we really stop to look fear in the face… 

we must do that which

we think we cannot.
Eleanor Roosevelt
We are stronger than we think we are… believe in yourself today.

Joining Deidra on jumping tandem and the Sunday community
((Oregon beach photo by Melissa))

Becoming real with oneself

by | Feb 25, 2014 | Uncategorized

The first word:

Courage is not the absence of fear but it’s taking action in the midst of it.
Dictionary.com says: Courage is:
The quality of mind or spirit that enables a person to face difficulty, danger, pain, without fear. bravery.
to take ones courage in both hands to nerve oneself to perform an action.
Courage is an action word.
When I first began my journey into recovery I didn’t know what to expect and was not sure who to see or how to navigate through the unknowns.
There came a point in time when the realization came to me if I didn’t do something, nothing would take place and nothing would change the way I was feeling.
So I began to ask questions.
I searched and interviewed well known counselors.
To admit to yourself or anyone else that one needs counseling takes courage.
A lot of it.
Emotionally I knew and was convinced something had to be done.
The journey of healing with a lady counselor began the day she asked me, “why are you in here today?”
That is when you find courage and truth deep within yourself before you answer.
As time moves on you become more brave in finding your voice and 
you become stronger each time you go in to talk.
“You gain strength, courage and confidence
by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face.
You are able to say to yourself, ‘I lived through this horror.
I can take the next thing that comes along.’
Eleanor Roosevelt
Courage is not an easy word but
when we finally become real with ourselves we find healing.
Courage doesn’t always roar.
Sometimes it is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying,
“I will try again tomorrow.”   
And each time I tried and took action to heal
the tomorrows became easier and the pain lessened.
Becoming real with ourselves is a huge part of having courage.