Continuing on the topic of forgiveness:
(forgive: cease to blame or hold resentment against:
give up desire or power to punish)
Our Pastor did a series on this topic and these are a few of his thoughts.
Forgiveness is:
releasing someone from holding onto our hearts.
not allowing the negative experiences of the past to dominate the hope and healing of our future.
not allowing the past to dominate our decisions and behaviors so that we stay captive to the pain or discomfort.
saying from our heart to the other person … you don’t owe me.
Forgiveness is not:
making excuses or enabling
(if it hurt ‘say it hurt’… be real to your feelings)
approval or trusting
(when trust gets broken it has to be earned back)
not forgetting or denying
(oh that really didn’t happen or saying ‘it wasn’t that bad’)
it is not indifference or avoidance
(not caring or not admitting)
it is not a one time event
(forgiveness has layers)
it is not and cannot be without boundaries
(enough is enough ~ you will never hurt me like that again)
Forgiveness is not reconciliation (become friendly with)
(where two people agree to come to one place of purpose
as if nothing ever happened)
sometimes forgiveness is one sided such as through prayer
I forgive… then name a name between God and yourself.
The one forgiven does not have to be a part of that conversation.
Forgiveness is saying:
Lord I trust you to work on their hearts just as you have worked on mine.
Forgiveness is a divine act of God.
We are forgiven therefore we must forgive. 
When someone has hurt us the only real way
to forgive deeply is to allow God to touch us in those painful places and allow him to heal us layer by layer.
It is a process.
It is not easy.
It is not to be done lightly.
Forgiveness is a choice.
If we choose to be emotionally healthy and perhaps even physically healthy
part of that health
is forgiving those who once hurt us.