by Sharon O | Feb 11, 2012 | Uncategorized
If you have been anywhere near a major store lately they have several aisles dedicated to Valentines day.
As you walk the aisle you see heart shaped boxes filled full of chocolate alongside plush animals wrapped in red ribbons and fancy cards with poetic verses.
I wonder
do we let the Valentines day concept ‘pressure us’ into buying a card or a gift just because Hallmark says we must in order to show our love.
There are other ways to show love.
For instance:
grocery shopping for you when you are feeling down and not able to think
sending you flowers when you don’t expect them or a card
or making a phone call just when you think they need it
to say ‘I am thinking of you’
expressing your gratitude even for small things
doing the dishes or making the bed
getting your car washed just because or
walking the floor with the baby or
walking the dog in weather that is not so nice
making dinner after you planned it
allowing the other person to sleep in when you know they are really truly exhausted
There are many ways to show you care for your loved one in your home
or towards your children or grandchildren.
Hallmark does not have to tell me ‘on this day you will declare your love’
I see it as a challenge for us every day to realize it doesn’t have to be February 14th.
It can be any day we see our loved one smile across the room.
Or when we let them know we are glad they are here with us.
Surprises are wonderful.
Encouragement and praise is too.
Thoughtful gestures are nice along with sweet words but
I challenge you on this Valentines day to remember
gifts are wonderful but not in exchange for your time or your listening ear or your understanding or most of all your prayers.
What matters is knowing I will take the love challenge and do something from my heart to theirs.
Not because of hallmark or the calendar or guilt.
I do it because I choose to show my love every day of the year not just one.
What about you, are you up for the challenge?
You don’t have to be married it can be something you do that is nice towards a good friend or a child you admire or even someone in a care home.
Valentines day is all about saying to someone, “I care for you.”
It is a challenge to show love and perhaps even let this be an opportunity to show God’s love for others too.
HE gave us a real example of His love in John 3:16:
“For God so loved the world that he gave his only son so that whoever believes in him should not perish but have everlasting life”
The ultimate most meaningful love gift of all from God’s heart to ours
because he cared deeply for us.
(mug picture from pinterest ~ clip art pictures from google)
by Sharon O | Feb 8, 2012 | Uncategorized
I have collections in our home.
Anyone who knows me
knows that angels are high on the list and of course roses.
It can’t be just any angel. It has to be pretty, and antique in style.
Then I found these fairies and they were so adorable I had to add them to the collection.
Bunnies are high on the list too.
Just love the whimsical look of bunnies.
Found these at our hospital gift shop for a very ‘low price’.
Then back to angels.
The one on the left is my December birthday angel the middle is February for one sister and the other one is for June for my other sister.
These are called birthday angels by Lefton. Antique in style.
These were from my grandmother they are small demitasse cups for special occasions made out of very fragile china. Antique in style.
Back to whimsical bunnies.
All different in count of three.
Back to pretty ladies and little girls.
The middle one I purchased on a very special occasion after a therapy appointment.
A little girl and her bear.
Perhaps the reason I have groups of three’s
growing up I was the youngest of three daughters.
It was always the three of us no matter what went on in life
we were for each other.
Seasons came and went and sometimes our lives changed and our closeness drifted
but we always knew
we were for each other.
Now in our ‘golden years’ (we are all in our middle stage of life)
we realize even more the preciousness of being sisters.
The other day I was thinking on this topic and realized
no wonder I felt so comfortable with the concept of
the Father, Son and Holy spirit…being three in one.
I was already familiar with the number three.
by Sharon O | Feb 5, 2012 | Uncategorized
An Oregon beach in February ~
wonderful crisp air and beautiful waves ~ a very rare surprise.
Reminding us that HE delights in giving us good things.
Be still and Know that HE is God and remember
He refreshes our soul if we let Him.
(photo by Melissa G of Oregon)
Linking up with Deidra from Jumping tandem.net on Sunday.
by Sharon O | Feb 3, 2012 | Uncategorized
We were shopping as we normally do
following our list and planning the menu items needed for the week
when I saw her.
She used to come into the pharmacy where I worked and we had spoken to each other on many occasions.
Leaning against her shopping cart while holding onto a cane she saw me as I saw her and we both said ‘hello’.
An elderly lady in her 80’s with white grey hair folded and rolled into a bun on the top of her head.
Her aged face showing deep wrinkles and life experiences.
So often when she would come into the pharmacy I would imagine her sitting on a bench in front of a vanity mirror brushing her long white locks carefully counting 100 times before bed.
She was always very sweet and kind and I imagined she was somewhat independent in her younger years.
This day she looked a bit different as fatigue seemed to weigh heavy on her shoulders like an uninvited guest.
I asked her how she was doing and she began to unravel a story that touched me deeply.
A close friend of hers recently passed away and it broke her heart to say good bye to her.
Every Sunday they would share the day and enjoy each others friendship and now it would be different.
She said ‘Sundays won’t be the same anymore without her’
with tears in her eyes she shared how precious this friend was.
How they would lay on the hospice bed and talk and cry and pray and support each other as the call of death came closer each day.
She looked at me and said,
“I was with her when she took her last breath”.
As soon as I heard those words I knew the moment called for gentle understanding as I put my hand on her arm and said in an almost whispered voice,
“You gave her a gift, your friendship blessed her and she did not pass away alone.”
She took a deep breath and I could see the grief paint its way across her face as the memory of her dear friend came near.
Silence and sorrow stood beside her and held her up as she leaned against the shopping cart.
We talked about her two story house feeling even more big these days. We talked about her moving into a retirement community… someday.
I told her the good points and how the atmosphere of safety was a glamorous thought.
She asked questions and I answered them sounding like I knew what I was talking about.
She appreciated my encouragement.
I even offered to go with her to visit the retirement community so she wouldn’t have to go alone.
We continued to talk and share for over 20 minutes in the middle of the jello pudding and pie filling aisle.
Between cans and boxes and people walking by
her hurting heart and my willingness to help.
It didn’t matter that we were in a big store in the middle of a shopping aisle.
For a few moments it was just the two of us sharing matters of the heart together.
She thanked me for taking the time to listen to her and
she even asked if she could hug me.
Taking the time to listen that afternoon made me wonder
if this was the only conversation she had shared with anyone
since her friend passed away. Her need to talk and share was so evident I couldn’t have walked away.
Our shopping list was finished by a husband who knows his wife.
Matters of the heart are not often convenient or scheduled
they are opportunities to take hold of and observe.
When we begin to say our first ‘hello’ to someone
we need to look into their eyes and really see what they are not telling and then be willing to listen when we ask them “how are you doing?”
Matters of the heart are all around us
we just need to pay attention and be open to the process of caring.
by Sharon O | Feb 1, 2012 | Uncategorized
Continuing onto the topic of:
What captivates your heart controls your destiny.
Pastor was talking on Sunday about the book of Ephesians again and he started out with a statement.
Contrast defines capacity.
Meaning the depth of contrast you have between your life and things that affect your life negatively will deepen your capacity to understand the difference.
I hope that makes sense.
He said when we understand the depth of sin we begin to understand the depth of his love for us.
When we understand that God cared for us even when we didn’t know him we open ourselves to the deep deep love he has for our hearts condition.
Then pastor shared some myths we tend to believe when it comes to our personal sins.
Myth one: It is not a sin if no one is getting hurt
Myth two: The devil made me do it (therefore I am not responsible)
Myth three: I am not that bad (comparing myself to bad people)
Myth four: What happens here stays here
(it is not affecting anyone else)
All of these myths remove us from real relationship with God and his love for us.
No matter how deep we are in denial or omission or rationalization or apathy.
His love never changes.
Even when we fail… BUT GOD loves.
Ephesians 2: 4-7
4 But because of his great love for us, God, who is rich in mercy, 5 made us alive with Christ even when we were dead in transgressions—it is by grace you have been saved. 6 And God raised us up with Christ and seated us with him in the heavenly realms in Christ Jesus, 7 in order that in the coming ages he might show the incomparable riches of his grace, expressed in his kindness to us in Christ Jesus. (NIV)
Grace is: ‘His power and gift reaching out to us’ when we are lost.
God says: “I don’t care how you feel on earth I care about how you are seen in heaven.”
He wants us to be changed from the inside out.
We must begin to deepen the contrast between the darkness and the light in order for us to fully grasp his powerful love and desire for us to change.
Then pastor finished with this thought.
“You can’t get people found until they realize they are lost.”
Lord help us to realize the lost places in our lives and help us also to renew our capacity to understand your love and faithfulness to us.
(photograph by Shelley Collis of Oregon)
